Teammates might misunderstand me as...
Preachy, sensitive, not genuine
I am passionate about my values, and I worry I come across as preachy or condescending. I am a deeply feeling person, and I worry my teammates may get tired of me being honest about how I am feeling. I strive to show up to work authentically, but sometimes I worry that I am not expressing myself that way.
Full storyPersonality type
Protagonists (ENFJs) feel called to serve a greater purpose in life. Thoughtful and idealistic, these personality types strive to have a positive impact on other people and the world around them. They rarely shy away from an opportunity to do the right thing, even when doing so is far from easy. Protagonists tend to be vocal about their values, including authenticity and altruism. When something strikes them as unjust or wrong, they speak up. Protagonists’ secret weapon is their purity of intent. Generally speaking, they are motivated by a sincere wish to do the right thing rather than a desire to manipulate or have power over other people. Even when they disagree with someone, Protagonists search for common ground. Unrealistic – Many Protagonists put pressure on themselves to right every wrong that they encounter. But no matter how hard these personalities strive, it just isn’t realistic for them to solve all of the world’s problems. If they aren’t careful, they can spread themselves too thin – and be left unable to help anyone. Overly Idealistic – Protagonists tend to have clear ideas about what’s right and what’s wrong. They often think that everyone shares these fundamental principles – or, at least, that everyone should share these principles. So it can come as a genuine shock to Protagonists when people violate their core values, such as truth or justice. Condescending – People with this personality type enjoy teaching others, particularly about the causes and beliefs that matter so much to them. But, at times, Protagonists’ attempts to “enlighten” others may come across as patronizing – not the most effective strategy for persuading other people, unfortunately. Intense – When it comes to self-improvement, Protagonists are rarely short on energy or determination. But they may not recognize that not everyone shares these qualities. At times, Protagonists may push others to make changes that they aren’t ready for – or simply aren’t interested in making in the first place. Overly Empathetic – Compassion is among this personality type’s greatest strengths. But Protagonists have a tendency to take on other people’s problems as their own – a habit that can leave them emotionally and physically exhausted.
Full storyMe when sh*t hits the fan
When emergencies happen, I go into "get sh*t done" mode. Calm and collected, I am focused on resolving the emergency swiftly. Once things are resolved and settled down, my emotions come back and that is when I feel the stress.
Full storyI learn best by…
I can read so many books and take so many courses, but nothing beats actually practicing the thing I want to learn. Having a mentor or a peer to work with is even better, because I can practice debrief with them.
Full storyYou will make my freakin day if you…
It is nice to get to know teammates more on a personal level, so I always appreciate when they share something about themselves, their family, pets, hobbies, life, etc.
Full storyMy biggest fear
My biggest fears are related to rejection and abandonment. My coping mechanisms involve a need for reassurance (clinginess) or self-rejection (excluding myself so others don't have a chance to).
Full storyMy areas for growth
DEIB work is work that cannot be done alone, and building community and coalitions is critical to making an impact. I know I can improve my ability to communicate purpose and vision to bring others along on the journey. I am struggling to cope with stressors at work and at home. This means I am not my best self in either area, and I want to better balance my resourcing and my work/life so I can be my best self.
Full storyMy superpowers
I am a very feeling person. My feelings guide me in my connections with people and my work. I feel connected to my values of community, justice, and love, which guide almost everything I do. I enjoy creating with others, and am my best in relationships built on trust and care.
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